“All my life I've always come back to one thing, a sense of belonging to a familiar tribe, a brotherhood that goes beyond a bloodline.” Jess "Chief" Brynjulson
Ever since I read "tribes" by Seth Godin I often think about my "tribe" who's in it and what is my role. Of course when I say tribe the word could easily replaced with clan, network, soul family etc.
As Seth Describes it: “A tribe is a group of people connected to one another, connected to a leader, and connected to an idea. For millions of years, human beings have been part of one tribe or another. A group needs only two things to be a tribe: a shared interest and a way to communicate.”
He goes on to explain that can be plainly seen in the music, sports, industry where the fans (fanatics) follow their chosen team or band sometimes in the hundreds of thousands or millions. Seth also outlines many tribes that are out there "Making A Difference" socially, politically and environmentally
Generally speaking the tribes we are part of reflect our values, the things that are important to us, support us and/or passionate about in life. These include tribes like Anonymous, Natural parenting, Alcoholics anonymous, 38 Degrees and Standing Rock.
When exploring this what I discovered is that I am connected many tribes; Well-being tribe, NLP tribe, work tribe, Sedona tribe, creative muscle tribe, Plant Medicine tribe, Ex- college tribe and the list goes on.
Some have leaders and some don't, some I have physical connection (meet in person) and others are virtual and they support me in different ways. When a tribe is in-sync our tribe seem to know exactly what we need sometimes even when we don't irrespective of time and space. The unexpected but well timed call or message
I remember sometime ago having a very public (alcoholic fueled) extended argument with a girl friend, my friends were there and hers too.To say I felt embarrassed on how I handled the situation is an understatement, I knew the feeling of wanting the world to just open and swallow me up.
However the following day something happened that remains a stronger memory for me than the awful night before. That 2 friends that were with me the night before drove to my house to see me. I felt a bit tentative and ashamed at first to see them expecting a lecture, advice or something to make me feel even more remorseful and uncomfortable.
In fact the opposite happened they hung out with me all day and they didn't mention a word about the night before. Even when I talked about my feelings and guilt in the episode they just listened attentively, holding a space for me to process my thoughts and feelings without judgement.
In this example they gave me exactly the support I needed and in the last wise words you may recall another tribe member (from a different tribe) helped me by challenging me to make a project I'm working on more robust and comprehensive.
Being able to identify our tribes and what they do for us is important because they provide us different kinds of support and resources (and us to the other tribe members) when necessary.
Do you know your tribes? How they support you? What purpose does your tribe serve? How do you support them? What roles do you play in those different tribes?
I am happy and grateful to count you as my tribe and I trust that the Wise Words provoke thought, challenge, offer words of support, awaken and Inspire.
Wishing you happiness, fulfillment and peace over the festive season. And send special thoughts to those that are struggling at this time of year because it's not a easy and merry time for all. Wishing deep healing and peace.